077. Khrystalle Wheatley

Apr 1

Khrystalle Wheatley

Love Advocate

Website: https://www.wheatandweather.com/
Instagram: @Wheatandweathercreativedesign

Khrystalle is a former corporate event and wedding planner turned love advocate. She is deeply passionate about the personal growth that is possible through healthy and thriving relationships.

We spend so much of our lives getting in our own way, striving to create a safe environment dedicated to self-preservation. When you finally find a partner who manages to break down those walls & holds space for your fears, past mistakes, & heavy baggage, it's almost like you can finally exhale.

This type of environment can foster insane amounts of personal growth, healing, & life-altering connections. This type of environment is where real, unconditional love thrives. This type of environment is where you can work towards becoming the very best version of yourself.

This is the kind of relationship that I whole-heartedly believe every single human deserves. This is the kind of relationship that I am committed to helping others create and maintain in their own life because when all is said and done, the greatest healer is love.

Oh this episode. Khrystalle and I met in a post-mormon group on Facebook and I felt an instant connection with her. She voices so many things that resonate with me.

We spent a chunk of time talking about sex. Which is extremely important within the LDS Church. And other religions, I’m sure. If an organization, family, or friends use shame to teach about sex, it’s wrong. There’s no other way to say it. Sex is not shameful. At all. If you feel shame around sex, it means you were taught to feel that way. Which is awful. That’s never how you should feel around something that is normal.

The conversation around sex within the church desperately needs to change. No more comparing young men and women to chewed gum if they have sex before marriage. No more equating sex before marriage to murder. (If you haven’t heard these things, you are lucky. Many of us were taught these things.) Sex before marriage does not negate your worth. It does not mean no one else will want you. It does not mean you will be lesser than or be doomed for life.

It means you’re human.

Normal.

Worthy.

Nothing can take away your innate worth. Nothing.

If you’re getting married soon and have been raised with shame around sex, I hope that you will do research and get any help you may need to help you realize that there is nothing shameful about it. You have nothing to fear around it. I cannot stress this enough, you do not need to feel shame around sex. At all. Enjoy it! Get some lingerie that helps you feel sexy and attractive. Sex is meant to be enjoyable and pleasurable. So enjoy it!

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